Q:Male privilege is when, in your physics class there are only 8 girls left out of 30 kids. Then, when you're watching Star Trek in class, and a women takes off all her clothes and you point it out that it was unnecessary, the entire class jeers at you. My two best friends told me that it was because the movie was catering to its intended demographic. I pulled up evidence that nearly 50% of gamers are women. No matter how much evidence I give, they won't listen.
As much as I love Patrick Stewart and his work to end violence against women, I hate that there is this notion that it takes a man. Women fighting to end their own oppression isn’t good enough. No, we need a man to sweep in and save the day. A woman who fights her own oppression also doesn’t get any respect and is told to sit down and shut up. But a man who tries to stop the harm caused by men is amazing, gets applauded, and gets awards for just being a decent human being.
I hate the notion that it is going to take men. No. While men helping is great, it is women who are doing the real hard work without any of the rewards given to men. And it is women who should be applauded for fighting an uphill battle against oppression, not just men who help from a position of privilege.
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Why is it that when a woman says that she’s never been raped or sexually assaulted, men have to make it a commentary about her looks?
Why is it that when a woman that they don’t find attractive say she has been raped or sexually assaulted, men don’t believe her because of course no one would want to rape her.
Why is it that men talk about rape and sexual assault as if they have anything to do with attraction even though they are really about power and control?
Why is it that men get to be the judge of whether or not a woman is telling the truth? Why is it that they get to be the judge of a woman’s attractiveness and exactly how much her looks matter or are a good judge of her value? Why is it that they get to be the judge of a woman’s worth at all? Why is it that their judgments of a woman are the standard by which society decides whether to believe her or not?
Male Privilege can easily be defined by Carl’s jr. commercials. All the girls look like their about to have sex with any burger they have. The commercials with guys, however, make it so that what they’re eating gives them super powers. I want super powers too and I don’t eat my burgers in a bikini.
Today I was talking about rape to a boy in my class. I said there is a much smaller chance that you will be raped then i. He said men aren’t really raped. They’re men they can just fight the woman off. I have never been more disgusted in my life.
This is a disturbing viewpoint. And very telling about what we teach men vs what we teach women.
I read one of your older posts about how mothers underestimate their daughters physical ability and it reminded me of the physical tests that P.E classes give. The expectation for boys is always much higher than it is for girls and it angers me. Girls of age 11 or 12 are expected to do about like 10 pushups while boys are expected to do about 15 or 20. (these are not exact numbers its just what i recall) It angers me because anytime I take those I get greater than the boys numbers and everyone is usually surprised and saying “I cant believe a girl is so strong!” and things like that. I understand its difficult for guys to be held to high standards but its degrading for girls to be held to such low standards.
They also expect girls to be more flexible than boys. Which is doubly fucked up to think about, for pretty obvious reasons.
In addition, none of the sports programs at any of my schools ever “required” flexibility. They were all athletically based and by and large dominated by boys. I never even saw a gymnastics program until my last couple years of high school. Flexibility was for cheerleaders and floor tumblers—things that were and are still seen as either “for show” or “for girls” competitions.
My boyfriend thought he’d tease me by saying he’s going to buy me a shirt that says “I should be in the kitchen” for my coming up birthday, then when I react poorly to his comment, he gets offended that I got offended. I turn to my female friend and tell her what happened. Her response was “Well if he was only joking, then don’t take it so seriously.” I don’t find blatant sexism to be funny, joke or not, and I’m disgusted that this society has taught a FELLOW woman that comments like this should be tolerated.
Q:Male privilege is when you are walking on a side walk and a grown man drives their car past you and screams "slut!" and then when you talk to your male friend about it, instead of being upset, asks what you were wearing, and says it could happen to a guy too. And then proceeds to bring up made up scenarios of when something like that could happen to a man.
You can make up all sorts of scenarios and that doesn’t mean they’re true. I could probably pull aside any of my friends who identify as women and ask them to tell me about a time they were honked at or cat called and probably get a different story from each one. And more than one.
"It could happen" doesn’t mean shit.
Male Privilege is going to hentai night alone as a woman, and automatically having a man assume that you want company even when giving all the physical cues to the otherwise (turning my back to him, answering in mono-syllables, etc.). It is being followed by said man when I got up to go back to my hotel room and being offered a “massage.” It is being pestered by him repeatedly throughout the con, as well as by other men who view watching an erotic animated film in a room full of people as an invitation for sex.