Male privilege is, while still getting shit for being fat, you are not demonized and dehumanized to the degree that women are.
Male privilege is having your “clothing style” be accepted on all genders (for the most part).
Mod note: This is an interesting submission (and I’m sorry for breaking up your lovely submission into parts because I feel like these are all nice standing alone).
In shopping for clothing, often me and my friends don’t get a second look for shopping in the men’s section. In the one instance where I had a male friend buy women’s clothing, it was like a night and day difference in experience.
Male Privilege is Receiving a Lesser Punishment for A Worse Crime
I’ve told this story before on another blog but I’ll tell it again here.
Many years ago (ha) I was in middle school and we had an incident of a young seventh grade boy masturbating outside the girl’s locker room. And I am talking about everything down and out. No cloth between him and the bean so to speak.
He was suspended for a few days and I remember the scandal associated with it. However, the way he was treated afterwards by his peers (mostly other males) was astounding. They treated him as a sort of hero. As brave for doing what he did. He wasn’t ostracized, even if the girls of the grade were more wary of him.
An instance a few months later happened where a girl who was wearing a dress code appropriate top tripped and flashed everyone in the cafeteria because her shirt ripped on the edge of a table. She didn’t wear a bra because her breasts were small enough where she didn’t need one. It was an unfortunate incident, but the school apparently deemed it appropriate to expel her for “inappropriate conduct”.
Luckily, her parents were able to argue that she had done nothing wrong and she was let back in school. However, the way people reacted to her was much different. She was called a slut and a whore. She lost friends and rumors went around about how she was doing it all for attention (which spawned more rumors). Just because she showed her nipples, on accident, for a few seconds and was punished heavily for it.
Male privilege is being taken more seriously in discussions about women’s rights than the women themselves.
Dear Followers and Tag Trackers
I realize that the last time an announcement was made on this blog was 100 followers ago!
That’s amazing and I want to welcome every single one of you to AMP.
Your asks are appreciated and I hope that no one minds having them replied to privately. I think I will start a system where you place [[okay to post]] or just [[otp]] on the asks so I know it’s okay for me to put your face out there. I don’t want anyone’s username popping up in front of 400 people if they’re not comfortable with it.
Let me know what you think and I will make the changes if need be.
You didn’t think too deeply about this did you? Of course not. If you were prone to thinking deeply about things… you probably wouldn’t be a Feminist, now would you?
I’m screaming “THAT’S THE POINT THAT’S LITERALLY THE POINT YOU JUST MADE THE EXACT POINT” at my computer screen right now.
Lewis’s law in action!
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because it seems necessary to say this:
Men’s Rights Activists, why do you think people are laughing at you?
It’s not because we think you shouldn’t have rights or that your problems don’t matter. I want men to be able to wear pink and drink fruity drinks and wear makeup and engage in other perhaps unfairly stereotypical “feminine” activities without getting harassed. Custody battles should be decided fairly without defaulting to the mother because she’s stereotyped, because of her gender, as a better caregiver. I hate that men are raped and don’t report it because it makes them feel emasculated. I think that the concept of masculinity that’s being pushed by our society is really messed up and extremely harmful to men.
The thing is, instead of spending five minutes researching what feminism is actually about and realizing that it actually would help ALL of the above issues, that we’d actually be on the same side here considering you give a crap about women (which is, well, in question), you’d rather start your own counter-movement (often IN OPPOSITION to feminism) about how your own problems matter more. “Why are we not talking specifically, exclusively about ME, right now?”
Feminism IS NOT and NEVER HAS BEEN about hating men. It’s not about women taking over the world and stripping men of all their rights. If you believe that, you’re operating under a faulty understanding of the issue and should do some research.
When you force your way into this discussion with an intense focus on men’s rights (or rights, as society would call them), you misunderstand the issue at best and belittle the systematic oppression of women around the world. When the issue you bring up is, “But I’M always expected to pay for dates!” then yes, people will laugh at you.
About Male Privilege
I’m sure everyone learns at some point in their life that all squares are rectangles, but not all rectangles are squares.
That said, all male privilege is rooted in sexism, but not all instances of sexism can be seen as male privilege. Yes, you can loosely tie all instances of sexism into male privilege. It’s a matter of how that sexism came to be there in the first place.
However, when talking about male privilege, getting to the root is how I believe learning happens. Seeing how even at a very, very young age, boys are taught they are stronger, smarter, bigger and better is damaging. And it’s steeped in male privilege.
Unlearning your sexism ties into learning about male privilege.
A privilege is given to one group or person. This is not a case of two sides to the coin. There is one side, and learning about it is the key to dismantling it.