Q:Male privilege is not having to worry if people in your class will see your unshaven legs while trying to concentrate in said class. Male privilege is not having to be ashamed of this worry because you identify as a feminist. :/
Q:Male privilege is my mom telling me that I should go back to the boyfriend who wouldn't take no for an answer. No matter how tired and/or sick I was and how many times I said I just want to sleep, he would keep insisting until we touched eachother. My mom thought it was alright because 'He hasn't seen you in a while, he deserves it', and I thought it was alright for two years because she affirmed it. She kept trying for a year to make me take his calls after we stopped seeing eachother.
Also, the guy my mom was trying to push me to go back to had broken up with me. I suffer from depression and he broke up with me because I have some ‘issues’ to work out. Even knowing this and that he would coerce me to “make out” with him, she still would berate, harass and yell at me for not going back to him and would trick me into picking up the phone to talk to him, saying that it was someone else or the school I went to at the time calling.
Q:I get called a slut every single day at school by a group of guys , but theres one , he's the worst one , he calls me "slut" every single fucking chance he gets , I tell one of my guy friends about my problem and he responds with " you probably did something to them to make them do this though"
I hate that answer. “Stop provoking your abuser” is such an old and worn out thing to say. It’s useless, and it puts the pressure on you to “behave” and “do better”.
Saying that you are the problem when you are being abused is abusive in itself. Because saying that you are doing something to make this person violate your boundaries and verbally harass you is saying that it’s your fault. That’s shitty. I’m sorry anon.
I would bring it to the attention of a staff member who you can trust will take you seriously. This should be addressed.
Q:Male privilege has led to me being resigned to the fact I'm probably going to experience rape (whether attempted rape, molestation, date-rape etc) and that a part of me, a part that I hate, worries that during said rape, I'd be laughed at if I was wearing "unnattractive panties" (aka granny panties).
Q:Hi! I'm bisexual and I had a hard time accepting my attraction to women physically because emotionally I didn't trust them, partially from not trusting myself emotionally (as a woman) and from stereotypes and such. Now that I've gotten over all of that, should I be as hard on myself as a man should have to be? I mean, do I have more of an excuse, do you think? Thank you. :)
Are you asking if you should be taking a good long and hard look at the problematic elements of objectification, internalized misogyny and sexism overall? Yes. Always.
I don’t know what “hard on yourself” means. Cishet (and bi/pan) men should always, always be examining how they view women and how they treat women and how their privileges affect how they interact with women. That’s not being hard on yourself. That’s being a minimally decent human being.
I don’t know what “excuse” you’re talking about either. An excuse not to examine how you treat women? Everyone should take the time to look at how they treat women.
Q:Agreed. I mean, yes, it's possible that the girl is attracted to the admired celebrity to some extent. But, of course, HEAVEN FORBID a girl or woman is attracted to someone /AND/ wants to work hard and achieve a high goal in her life. Siiiiiigh.
What? You mean girls want to do things OTHER than serve men and have billions of babies. (Literally billions.)
Q:I was reading through your blog and saw the post about women admiring men vs men admiring women, and it just kind of reminded me of something I've experienced: if a boy looks up to a celebrity he gets praised for "dreaming big", but if a girl does it then she gets scoffed at for "being obsessed" and " just having a crush". :///
Interesting, isn’t it.
Q:This is the most ridiculous blog EVER!! Not worth explaining!!
I’m actually curious what part of this blog is ridiculous. Or did you just come off the outdated page at Reddit or BWCW? Or even that asinine parody church forum?
Q:I've seen the word "cissexist" being thrown around a lot. What exactly does it mean? I've tried to figure it out myself and I simply don't understand. Could you explain it to me?
Q:I fully acknowledge I was born with certain privileges. I'm upper middle class, white, male, I got a nearly free ride through a very exclusive private college, and I grew up with friends like me who I can use as connections once I graduate. I have the opportunity to work and study abroad in Europe. All of these things give me a distinct and very real advantage over the average person. My question is, why should I care what people like you think of these things?
Wow. I had so much hope for this ask at the first point even if it sounded like an asshole ask.
Then it just melted into a pile of radioactive goo that kinda smells like rotting fish and dip spit.
I was writing out a big long response and just gave up. Because I know you won’t listen.
Long story short, I can’t tell you what to care about. But if you honestly don’t feel anything for oppressed people then, gods help you. You are the kind of person that contributes to the problem instead of helping to fix it. You just make everything harder for those that are trying to help.