Q:What's your opinion on men asking women for nude photos via cell phone?
If two consenting adults want to trade nude photos, that’s none of my business.
If a man is trying to coerce nude photos out of an unwilling participant, then I put on my stomping shoes.
Q:My friend and I were talking about how I haven't had my first kiss (I'm 16 and totally fine with it) and some guy across the room called out, "well maybe if you acted like a damn girl like you're supposed to, someone'd actually want to!"
Q:I get breast related comments all the time. I have excessively large breasts for my body (30J) and if I show even the slightest bit of cleavage (like 5% of my overall breasts), I'm suddenly being a slut and asking to have men stare at me/harass me. Even my own family has said so. My sister has very tiny breasts and shows off the entire tops of them all the time, but since they're small that makes it even work appropriate. I just love being tormented for things I can't control.
(Please let me know if you would like these posts to be staggered so I’m not spamming your dashboard.)
Q:One of my (male) friends was talking to me today. During my part of the conversation, I kept getting the feeling he wasn't listening. Then, I caught him staring at my chest. I politely asked him to stop and he said, "if you don't want guys to stare at your boobs, you shouldn't have had such big ones!" Apparently, I am now being blamed for naturally large breasts!
I will never wrap my head around how men seem to be unable to take responsibility for violating someone’s boundaries.
Q:ive gone through about 7 pages of this blog and i fucking love you
And I love you, anon.
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Q:Ok so I like American Apparel's clothing, but when I go to shop in the women's section for bras, or socks online, I see that the girls are literally exposed and naked. This appalls me. Why does Dov Charney make these girls get almost naked or fully naked just to take pictures of socks, or bras, or even tights? Why?
Is this a genuine question because I’m sure we all know why.
(Short answer: sexism and misogyny, btw.)
Q:Please don't hurt yourself ❤
But it does get grating and exhausting to have people send messages like that over and over.
I literally went through the last year of the blog and found nothing about the subject. If someone would link it, I could address it. Just calling me names and yelling at me does nothing to fix the hurt that I supposedly caused.
Q:I've used different women's deodorant over the years and every time at the end of the day my armpits smelled, but recently I switched over to a men's deodorant and it works like a charm. Guhhh
I’ve noticed this too.
This seems like such a little thing but I tried about every brand I could and nothing helped until I switched to a men’s.
I’ve heard this complaint as well from other people who have used women’s deodorant. It’s incredibly odd, but incredibly unsurprising.
Q:Male privilege is being told that it's okay for a guy to call you and sexually harass you for six years because he only calls up once a year. It's okay that he knows your name, it's okay that he knows your number. It's being told you're hysterical because you don't know who he is and you're safe, because nothing is going to happen. It's being told that the phone company and police can't do anything about it unless he calls you seven more times because his number is private, -c-
it’s being yelled at by your mother for being scared and worried. It’s being yelled at for your mother for having an anxiety attack and ‘blowing being called by a stranger who sexually harasses you once a year out of proportion’. It’s being told by your mother that she won’t change the phone number or do anything to protect you because it’s too much work and she doesn’t want to. Male privilege is being yelled at by your mother and younger brother for carrying a knife that is legal in your country to carry for protection because of how vulnerable you feel. Male privilege is being told that you need medication instead of protection, that you shouldn’t have gone to the police in the first place. Male privilege is having a female officer give you her personal phone number because she knows that she can’t legally do anything in her job against the person harassing you, but is scared enough for your safety that she feels her only option to protect you is to offer to come off-hours when no one else will, because everyone else brushed off your fear and anxiety as overreacting and something that isn’t a big deal.