[Text: It was so okay to beat your wife until so recently that today we have a kind of shirt named after it.There’s a piece of clothing in our culture affectionately named after beating the crap out of your wife.
And for some reason, this is offensive to nobody!
I saw a woman on Good Morning America who said, “Today I was walking around with a wife beater…” I’m like, stop saying it like it’s not horrible!
"She was wearing a wife beater, and child murder shorts and I was like, SO CUUUUTE!"]
When I was 15, and still pretty new to Canada and English terms, my boyfriend at the time told me he liked wife beaters, I side eyed him so hard & called him out on it, while he reassured me it was simply the name of the shirt.
I’m glad I wasn’t the only one who noticed how fucked up the term is.
I’ve always hated that shit. I grew up calling them tank tops or undershirts and will continue to do so
male privilege is my school saying our dresses have to have 1 1/2 inch straps so “boys won’t get worked up”
Q:My friend and I were talking about how I haven't had my first kiss (I'm 16 and totally fine with it) and some guy across the room called out, "well maybe if you acted like a damn girl like you're supposed to, someone'd actually want to!"
you forgot the evergreen ‘of course he’s harassing you look what you’re wearing (anything but a burlap sack will get the same comment) don’t you see you have BOOBS you’re supposed to wear a medieval armor to hide them from sight’
I dunno. Burlap sacks are pretty revealing depending on how you wear them.
When a boy sexually harasses another boy in school: he will be in serious trouble, he will have every single teacher lecturing him about how it was wrong, he will possibly get expelled or get sent to a different class every time when he’d be sharing a class with the boy he harassed and the teachers will act in completely different manner while around him because they’re judging him.
When a boy sexually harasses a girl: she’ll get told “boys are boys”, “he’s just a teenager, you know boys sometimes do stupid stuff to seem cool in front of their friends” and “don’t be so hard on him, he probably doesn’t understand how you feel about this” and the worst he’ll get is a “that’s not nice” comment from the teacher in a monotonous voice who’ll carry on like nothing happened.
[TEXT: People don’t typically think of road rage as a gendered phenomenon.
But one study recently showed that out of ten thousand cases of aggressive road rage over 95% were males. But you read the editorials in the newspapers throughout the country about road rage and the articles, essays and opinion columns, and it’s rarely talked about as a masculine or a male phenomenon. It’s just a phenomenon on our roadways.
If women were doing it, if 95% of the people doing it were women, you can be that the single issue that would be talked about is, why are women, what is going on in the gender construction of women that cause them to act in that way?]
with Ed. M, Ph.D Jackson Katz
Same for mass shootings which are almost entirely done by white males.
If it was done by, literally, ANYONE ELSE of any other race or gender, I can’t even IMAGINE the shit that would be said by people.
I read somewhere, someone had this theory that the reason shootings are mainly committed by white males is because when women or poc feel alienated, depressed, etc, we are trained to keep it to ourselves, whereas white men are raised with a sense of entitlement that allows them to make their own problems everyone’s problem.
I wonder if it is true for shooting or for road rage or both or neither.
This is a really good documentary.
Q:I get breast related comments all the time. I have excessively large breasts for my body (30J) and if I show even the slightest bit of cleavage (like 5% of my overall breasts), I'm suddenly being a slut and asking to have men stare at me/harass me. Even my own family has said so. My sister has very tiny breasts and shows off the entire tops of them all the time, but since they're small that makes it even work appropriate. I just love being tormented for things I can't control.
(Please let me know if you would like these posts to be staggered so I’m not spamming your dashboard.)
When somebody tries to make a joke based on negative male stereotypes a lot of people will go: “Not all men are like that” and start defending men.
When somebody tries to make a joke based on negative female stereotypes and somebody says the same “Not all women are like that” phrase a lot of people will go: “You should just learn to take a joke, geez, what a killjoy” and start shaming women.
Q:One of my (male) friends was talking to me today. During my part of the conversation, I kept getting the feeling he wasn't listening. Then, I caught him staring at my chest. I politely asked him to stop and he said, "if you don't want guys to stare at your boobs, you shouldn't have had such big ones!" Apparently, I am now being blamed for naturally large breasts!
I will never wrap my head around how men seem to be unable to take responsibility for violating someone’s boundaries.
People aren’t allowed to look at part of your body? Fuck that. If you don’t went people to look at you don’t go outside. People have every right to look at you however they want and whatever part they want. Wait, I mean muh victim complex!?!?!?!?!?
Except no. It doesn’t work that way.
You do not have the inherent right to violate someone’s body with your eyes. Ever. If they do not want you staring at their face/chest/back you do not have the right to do so.
Boundaries are important and apparently you have no concept of them.