I thought you might be interested in an article I wrote about how people treat me differently now that I am a fat man vs. when I was perceived to be a fat woman:
Male Privilege and Transitioning From a Fat Woman to a Fat Man
I am a fat man. Once, I was perceived to be a fat woman. My transition has taught me a lot of things that I might not have otherwise engaged with if I had lived my life as a cis person. Transitioning really highlights male privilege and how society can treat you completely differently based on what gender it perceives a person to be. As soon as I started ‘passing’, I found I was treated with a respect that wasn’t often given to me as a woman. My personal space and boundaries were no longer violated, I was no longer talked down to, and people suddenly respected my right to privacy and my right to be left alone. I was no longer treated as if I simply existed for men’s pleasure.
Similarly, my body was no longer overtly criticised. Fat women are disproportionately targeted in Western society. They are subjected to public humiliation and discrimination every day, simply because of their bodies. They are stared at in the streets, they are under-represented in media (and then, only as the butt of a joke), and they are targeted with verbal and physical violence.
Fat men are also at the mercy of some stereotypes – laziness being the most common. However, I can now exist as a fat man largely without comment. I can shop for clothes in most stores rather than being turned away at the door and told that they don’t stock my size. Clothing companies cater to my needs, considering my body type ‘average’ (even if I am on the short side). Most clothing stores that cater to men stock from small to XXL and many beyond that. Meanwhile, despite the fact that the average dress size of a woman in the US is a size 14, many clothing outlets aimed at women will not stock above a size 12. Some stores such as Abercrombie do not stock above a women’s size 10 whilst simultaneously stocking XL and XXL in men’s sizes.
This imbalance, and the effect it has had on my life and the way that people perceive me, is one of the clearest and most startling examples of male privilege and sexism that I have encountered. It all comes down to the patriarchal view that women are somehow obligated to make themselves attractive to men. That men are entitled to gaze upon and comment upon women’s bodies.
When I was perceived to be a fat woman, there was a real sense of not just disgust, but a poisonous, malignant contempt. People (most commonly men) commented on my appearance like I somehow owed it to them to be, in their view, attractive. Like I was breaking some kind of cardinal rule because I was happy with my body without their approval. Now, in complete contrast, I am barely given a second glance.
Occasionally, I still face discrimination as a fat man, but it’s not as vehement, societally sanctioned nor pervasive as it once was. My treatment has changed simply because of the way that society perceives my gender. This is male privilege in action. We live in a society that has built a whole industry on bullying women for not being what is considered ‘attractive enough’ to men. Think about that the next time you want to stare at a fat woman on the bus.
The following is not so much male privilege, as it is a double standard (though I suppose an environment in which a double standard exists is a male privilege). I am in a play that depicts life in the ’40s. My layered, peaky bob with skewed bangs in no way represents the time period as is, and I figured I would need a hairpiece to begin with. Still, when I wanted to get a pixie cut, I politely asked my director if it would be a problem. He told me to wait until after the performance. I then told him that that’s OK, but I want to be there when he asks my male costar to cut his long hair. The reply? He will ‘discuss what the actors should strive to look like’. Meaning my male costar essentially gets to keep his hair, but I have to keep mine as well, all because I was dumb enough to ask.
Q:i get the significance of this tumblr and i commend the attempt to teach people about privilege - but some of the stuff you post here make no sense. like the short skirt one you posted a few days ago; how is that a male privilege? how do men benefit from longer skirts?
If you’re talking about the quote, you missed the point of it.
The quote is about how governments will police bodies no matter what women wear. It is about men constantly reminding women that their bodies are not theirs, in a sense.
It’s not “male privilege” per se, but the ability for men to police women’s bodies like that is very real, and very much a product of male privilege. Tying into the fact that pretty much wherever you look, it is a male majority making laws for women.
In short: It’s not about the laws as much a the fact that men make laws to control women.
A ban on niqabs in France or mini-skirts in Uganda, or warped legislation on reproductive rights in the U.S. — all these efforts tell women that our bodies are not our own.
While it is clear some trans women benefit from some elements of male privilege before transition, others are unable to fit well enough into the proscribed gender role to be able to do so. All lose all male privilege on transition.
Celeste R. West, Trans Women in Feminism: Nothing About Us Without Us
Debunking the fact that trans* women benefit from male privilege.
Are white men particularly prone to carrying out the all-too-familiar mass killings of which last week’s Aurora shooting is just the latest iteration? Is there something about the white, male, middle-class experience that makes it easier for troubled young men to turn schools and movie theaters into killing fields? In a word, yes.
A glimpse at the magazine rack in any supermarket checkout line will tell you that women are frequently the focus of sexual objectification. Now, new research finds that the brain actually processes images of women differently than those of men, contributing to this trend. Women are more likely to be picked apart by the brain and seen as parts rather than a whole, according to research published online June 29 in the European Journal of Social Psychology.
Now, once you’ve selected the “Straight White Male” difficulty setting, you still have to create a character, and how many points you get to start — and how they are apportioned — will make a difference. Initially the computer will tell you how many points you get and how they are divided up. If you start with 25 points, and your dump stat is wealth, well, then you may be kind of screwed. If you start with 250 points and your dump stat is charisma, well, then you’re probably fine.
An “infamous” article with an interesting explanation.
It isn’t perfect, by any means, but offers a decent explanation to people who would understand the metaphor.
When it comes to negotiating for better pay, women often hesitate, studies show. But new programs around the United States are aiming to eliminate those fears.
I like this article because it not only tackles the “77 cents”, it also tackles the wage gap for WoC as well.
Source: The New York Times